BODY SAFETY BE AWARE: Some General Tips and Guidelines
Some general grooming techniques to be wary of:
- Be aware of any person who wishes to spend a great deal of time with your child, seeking out their company and offering to take care of them at the ‘drop of a hat’.
- A person who pays special attention to your child, making them feel more special than another child; providing them with special treats, presents, sweets, etc.
- A person who is always willing to help out and ‘babysit’ when you are extremely busy and pushed for time.
Sexual offenders will always plan whom they target and will work very hard at gaining both the child’s and the family’s trust. They will create opportunities to be alone with children or groups of children and may well target vulnerable communities. They frequently change jobs and address to avoid detection. They will often spend a lot of time with children outside of their jobs. Sex offenders may well set up a scenario where a child has a reputation for lying so as to discredit them if they ever should disclose. They will use threats and blackmail to ensure the child keeps the secret. The keeping of ‘the secret’ is crucial to the perpetrator; it allows them to continue the sexual abuse undetected. An abuser will use ‘guilt’ and ‘blaming’ techniques to coerce the child into believing that they are an equal participant in the ‘shameful’ secret and are equally to blame. The abuser may even make the victim feel they encouraged the sexual contact. The child can be so guilt-ridden they may never disclose and this is the perpetrator’s key aim.
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