Reluctantly Related: 5 Tips to Help You be Thankful, not Resentful, this Holiday.
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Does the thought of spending the holidays with your in-laws send you running for the hills? You’re not alone. “Three out of four marriages are impacted by problematic in-law relationships,” says Deanna Brann, Ph.D., leading expert on Mother-in-Law/Daughter-in-Law relationships and author of the new book Reluctantly Related: Secrets To Getting Along With Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-Law. “Mothers-in-law can fear being shut out and at risk of losing their son or grandchildren. Daughters-in-law can often feel manipulated, judged, or simply not validated. These problems can lead to minor annoyances or stress but can also result in a total family breakdown. ”Fear not – it’s never too early, or too late, to improve your relationship. Here are five tips to help you be thankful, not resentful, this Thanksgiving:
- Be a team player – Regardless of who is hosting, remember to ask questions, compliment your mother-in-law or daughter-in-law, offer help and let her know you’re interested in her thoughts.
- Don’t take things personally – Everyone is stressed during the holidays, so as long as you know you’re on your best behavior, you can be certain “it’s not all about you.”
- Find the humor – No matter what happens look at the humor in it and tuck it away for a story about what she did “this” time.
- Find some down-time for yourself – Just a few minutes to reflect and re-energize can be just what you need to get your energy back.
- Establish ground rules in advance – Talk to your spouse and agree on how long you’ll be staying. If necessary, take two cars and don’t forget to let your family know what time you plan to leave.
For more tips on building a better relationship with your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-Law pick up a copy of Reluctantly Related.
About the Author:
Deanna Brann, Ph.D., is a leading expert in the field of mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationships. She has over 25 years experience as a clinical psychotherapist and ran her own private practice for more than 18 years. Based in Knoxville, TN, Dr. Brann is a sought after speaker, author and seminar leader. She is also the author of Mothers-in-Law and Daughters-in-Law Say the Darndest Things.
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