Navigating Transitions How I did it!
3 Moms share about navigating transitions with their child
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I asked three mothers to share their experiences with us regarding navigating various transitions with their child(ren).
One mom shared about going from preschool to a mainstream class, another shared about putting her son in a residential home, while a third mom explained to us the “transitioning” from high school to a vocational day program.
There is something to be learned from each of their experiences.
I asked them to share exactly how they did it and to please make sure they included any challenges or tips that may help others.
Erin Harris is our first guest [0:00 to 9:49]
Erin shares two transition tips she learned and we can all benefit by putting her tips into our child’s transitions.
Erin is a Mother to four children: twelve-year-old daughter, eleven-year-old son, a seven-year-old son (who has been diagnosed with Down syndrome, hearing impairment, cecostomy tube, incontinence and presents with an
intellectual disability), and a four-month-old daughter.
She shared these two important, general tips with us that could apply to MOST of our children. These tips are NOT typically thought about when we’re thinking about transitions but would be important to note.
#1- Start planning any transition early; give yourself plenty of time.
#2 Help to facilitate inclusion, review every single minute of the child’s day in this new environment and think about what the barriers are, what equipment is needed to promote inclusion and request your team to be onsite to do that.
Parents have to advocate for this because it’s not necessarily going to “just happen.”
Our Next Mom is PJ [9:49 to 17:49]
Paige Jennifer (PJ) Nein and her husband have been together for 40 years and have five children: One Biological child, three adopted children with special needs, and they are helping to raise their friend’s daughter.
What I hope that you get from listening to Paige’s experience is that it’s not a level playing field out there for our kids… each state, county, etc., is different and services can change year to year within your school or district.
The last mom I spoke with was Sandra Cariker
[17:49 to 01:12:02] Her 13-year-old son, Nathan, has an intellectual disability and epilepsy. He also struggles with behavior issues. Sandra shares about putting Nathan in a residential placement at the age of 10 and feeling like it was the only option available to be able to help Nathan on a long-term basis.
I am sharing our entire conversation, although long because I think it is worth listening to (put in your earbuds and listen when you’re cooking dinner, exercising or taking a walk). There is something to learn from every experience and to understand what others might be dealing with based on their child and where they live.
A few highlights
(This is not all of the highlights covered in our conversation, so please listen when you can.)
[18:34] FEELING Like Residential Placement was the ONLY OPTION Available!
[26:03] Her tremendous eye-opener
[23:00] I was for it and My husband was not …
(Family Decision that was very hard especially when you’re not in agreement.)
[35:05] How, as a family, residential placement finally was resolved
[27:31] Her biggest fears!
[36:31] Not my Child… I’ll never do that… My Child will live with me forever (discussion)
[31:05] Selecting and dealing with the Residential Home
[50:00] What helped her get through and manage her personal “crisis of conviction” and mental state?
[55:42] Every year I am still on “pins and needles” at his IEP
[59: 52] The incredible turn around; look for the positives to “roll in” and enter your life!
What were your takeaways? Anything to Add?
Leave me a comment about what you learned from this podcast (or any of our podcasts). I might give you a shout out in the next episode.