Surviving the Holidays
5. Reduce Questions And Increase Comments
For example, instead of saying, “What did you get for Christmas? Tell Uncle Joe!” You can say “Uncle Joe, Tommy got a new Lego construction set and a Star Wars shirt for Christmas.” Be flexible and proud that your child has the stamina to just be with the family!
6. Prepare Relatives And Friends
Describe possible behaviors. Do this in a gentle, matter of fact manner. Describe your child’s challenges. You do not need to be apologetic. Your acceptance and coping will lead to their acceptance and flexible thinking. You can suggest ways that others might help to make things easier for your special needs child.
7. Allow Respite From The Excitement.
Do not insist that your child be “in the center” of the action at all times. It may be more comfortable for them to be with “the family”, for example, for short periods of time with respites to a “safe space”. Watch for their tolerance level.
8. Familiarity Breeds Comfort
Take along familiar foods, toys, objects, music, etc. Do whatever is necessary to help your loved feel safe, secure and loved.
You know what to do! These are simply reminders to keep you and your family members, even your typical children, ready for having a happy, safe and loving holiday season. By adapting to each setting, thinking about how others might be feeling or thinking, you will be using your “social thinking”.
Challenge yourself to be flexible, loving and supportive of yourself and others. How can you adapt to your situation and surroundings. What are others thinking in the same situation? It is my hope that this will make the holidays all that you wish they would be!!
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